For exactly the reason that I was tempted to cross my moral boundaries and use not-so-nice words in the title that would have given it more impact.When I started Godly Christian Dating, I had to check out the competition, and egads- it’s bad out there.

Here are my top 7 reasons why most Christian Dating Sites are NOTSOGREAT:

GREED: There are a lot of non-Christian opportunists out there trying to make a buck off this niche online.

SIN: As I said at the beginning of the post- getting attention while being pure is a bit more difficult. People take the easy way out. I won’t link to the site I’m thinking of because I don’t want to promote it.

LUST: One of the main ways people lure prospects in to secular dating sites… the Internet is full of some NOTSOPURE stuff.

QUALITY or the lack thereof: Most blogs aren’t that great, period. It takes good writing, layout, time, and devotion.

FRUGALITY: Most writers don’t write for free- and those that get paid may not get hired by the average site’s low budget decision maker.
Baked Beans. Not really. I just need more reasons to get to Seven. See? I lied a little bit. It’s tough to be interesting, prolific, and pure. Dang it! LOL

FREAKS: Some Christians are a little bit off their rocker and they WRITE IN TOO MANY CAPITAL LETTERS. Not me. Well sometimes.

I think this is where a lot of our troubles start.

Here are a few alternative things that lead dating Christians off the godly path:

1. Worshipping Each Other

Love the person you’re dating. Don’t worship them. Remember what God says first.

2. Worshipping Feeling Good

Physical love causes a lot of nice neurochemicals to be released. Following God doesn’t feel good ALL the time. But it feels good more often than being stuck in sin does. Don’t give in when feeling bad just because physical love feels good.

3. Worshipping Romantic Love

Hollywood tends to always turn “and they lived happily ever after” as the ultimate happy ending. The bad guys want to keep them apart, it’s them against the world, star-crossed lovers. Romeo and Juliet. If you just stick together and live according to your own rules and make each other happy, you’ll be fine, right? Wrong.

Godly people get closer when they individually get closer to God, and sometimes that can cause temporary friction between them, and everyone isn’t always happy. But in the long run, there’s greater joy in doing it God’s way.

Here’s his top three to avoid:

• BigChurch.com
• eHarmony.com
• Relationships.com

And he lists about 30 other questionable sites.

The main take-home point is: don’t blindly trust all sites that say they’re a Christian Dating Website!